It’ll be a half century next year. A whole fifty. Can you believe it?
My great-grandmother, who stood at the head of six generations and lived until I was 25, made it to 93. My son’s father left us at 19 though. And my own father—I’ve already lived more years than he got the chance to. Life’s not promised and it’s not set in stone either, which is exactly why I’m committed to making mine radiate.
And now… it’s my turn at 50.
Our lives stretch long, extravagant and gorgeous. But I’ve learned the hard way that we get the most out of our hearts-minds-bodies-souls when we steer them. We’re all steering, whether we mean to or not. This year, I choose to do it with intention.
December will mark one year until my golden age. This is my runway year. The time to strut into a new decade, a bold and courageous era being not just grateful, but gloriously satisfied. I will be breathless at the sight of my life. It will reflect my deepest wants. I will unbury my talents. I will step stronger into obedience. I will wear the promise on my life like a badge. And though I have not always felt like I belong, I am honored to be here. And for that reason, grateful-but-dissatisfied? That’s mid. I’m after full. I want super fine, flourishing– fire.
F 50 is my fire-building sojourn toward becoming the finest and most full of life at 50.
I’ll be tracking and sharing my pathway + process across five key categories:
🍊 Food + Fitness – how I fuel and move my body, mind and spirit. This is our most common place of challenge, I believe. Who isn’t so food conscious, body judging and knowing what we need to do but hesitating?
💸 Finance – how I steward and expand my money, if ever I get some. I mean, the big sum. The plan here is to plant and grow, nurturing my mind and money habits so that the big dreams and visions filling my head and heart can be funded. I’m gonna need major guidance here.
👩🏾🤝👩🏾 Family + Friends – how we heal, love and belong to a network and community. This has been so difficult for me for a variety of reasons but namely because I am a home body and workaholic. I also fear I’ve grown boring. And honestly? Lonely. I was, once upon a time, a bowl of laughs and the life of the party. I absolutely must address this.
🎈 Fun + Flirting – how I let play, pleasure and intimacy back in. This is putting the book down sometimes, getting up from the computer, swiping off Instagram and getting out into the world. It’s also mustering up the courage to tip-toe up to the big, scary D… dating.
👗 Fashion – how I adorn this new woman I’m becoming. This inner fire? Oh baby… with every outfit, every face beat, every hair did—oooh weee—I plan to flame.
These are our playgrounds, our laboratories, our arenas of awakening. Each one gets its own power surge.
Here’s the truth: I’ve lived, hustled and survived. But I want more than survival. I want radiance, total satisfaction, vitality, peace.
Right now? I’m in that in-between space: grateful but dissatisfied. And baby, “not bad” ain’t gon’ cut it. Not when I know what cosmic fire is possible.
The next three months are my pre-runway season. Think of it as rehearsal for the big show. Where the big show is life itself.
I’ll be identifying what’s not working, releasing old habits, adopting beneficial habits, seeking advice, trying new foods, healing techniques, strengthening good relationships, finding new friends, (Lord, help me) going out on dates, and setting the stage for what comes after 50.
When December hits and I step into 49, the spotlight comes on. The full F 50 campaign begins—a year of transformation and fire-building so that by 50, I don’t just show up by accident, I arrive by design.
This mid-century makeover is a neck-of-the-woods and you are my favorite neighbor. If you’ve ever felt like you came into this world halfway, were living halfway, have buried your talents, and only gone half the distance you know you’re meant to travel in life, and if you’ve ever wanted to upgrade from “frump” to “super fine,” then you’ve got a place. This is your invitation to journey with me.
We’ll laugh, we’ll grieve, we’ll glow on up. We’ll party and we’ll put our enjoyment into practice. We’ll say goodbye to the old, and welcome the new. And we’ll do it together.
May both our paths bloom. 🌸